Who We Are to Each Other
Bill Frase | Jun 24, 2010 | Comments 2
It’s a little unclear in this video, but I was haunted by the fact that a gentleman came up to me in an airport a little over a year ago (I just found my notes about it a couple of days ago) sharing his story of how he was so afraid to fly that he would go to the airport, check in, go through security and go the concourse, buy a pretzel and not get on the plane to Philadelphia he was so terrified of flying. He opened up this conversation by saying, “I’m so pathetic….” Actually I feel like the pathetic one. He had the courage to ask for help. I was the coward who was too afraid to share what i knew with him.
At that time I knew how to get that man on a plane that day so that he could fly to Philly and come back. I could have helped him, but my own fears that he wouldn’t believe me, or that people would think I was strange, or a gazilion other things kept me from saying, “Would you like some help with that?”
Somehow he was brought to me so that I could help him (granted, this is my interpretation, since I did know how to help him and he just blurted this out to me and my wife, Wendy) and i allowed my own fears and doubts to stop me from offering him the help that I could.
Please excuse the weepiness in the video. I’m not usually like that. I don’t know if it was giving blood or what, but I’m all about being real and authentic, and the idea of re-recording the video felt really inauthentic, so please give me a chance, I get better by the end. I’ll do my best to do better in the future.
Also, I make it sound like I was just out of the country recently. What I meant was to say that because I was in Mexico in May 2009, I had to wait a year to givee blood. I really need to be clearer on video, don’t I?
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One should never trust a man who doesn’t cry. Sometimes I think the tears are a way for us to be reminded that we had much more available to contribute to so many but chose to be impatient or lazy. In times of being overwhelmed with the opportunities that should have been taken one never wants to admit that we are human and less than perfect. I believe it is from the times we were “carried over someones head” at a point we most needed it that we actually learn to be abundantly compassionate and willing to serve others – no strings attached. Thinking we can reach a point where we can notice every anxiety, fill every need and serve all that hurt is a task too large for one. Sharing a tear or two with others says I committ to “carrying someone over my head” as often as I’m able but if we all work together the load becomes lighter.
I’ve been enjoying your insight and appreciate your video. I may need to reread any of your blog sections on procrastination. As I recall I was supposed to pass on some thoughts on the fears of flying. Let me know if you still need anything along those lines.
Don,
Thanks so much for you kind comments! Yes, I would love to connect with you about the fear of flying thing. I’m writing a book on my philosophy of success and I’m using airplane flight as a metaphor to help explain my key ideas and concepts related to my philosophy of holistic success.
Again, thank you for being so generous! Since you asked about procrastination, I’ll put up a post on that topic this morning. I’m not sure I have any posts that are specifically on that topic right now! Thanks so much!
Blessings!