Most of us, most of the time, go through life, clinging to what we are afraid to lose. While we do this, most of us wonder why we have so many challenges experiencing more of what we want in our lives.

Check out this video for a little more perspective on why we must let go in order to receive what we truly desire.

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For quite a while now, I have been an interpreter of dreams, my own and others’. Sometime after I started interpreting dreams, I realized that my waking experiences could be interpreted in very much the same way as those I had while being asleep.

The more difficult circumstances of our lives tell us the most about what we really think, feel, and intend. In these situations we can discover places within ourselves where we have not allowed the Power of God’s Love to heal our wounds and defenses.

If you want to learn as much as possible from what you are going through, here are some questions to ask:

• What would I need to believe about myself and/or life in order to have this experience?

• What fear did that situation bring out in me? Am I willing to let God clear that fear?

• How am I rationalizing about the situation to prove myself right? If I am, how would I think and feel differently if my heart was filled with Love and Compassion for myself and for everyone involved in this circumstance?

• What do I hate about myself that would lead me into this situation? When will I let God love me? When will I allow me love myself? What are the possibilities that I actually deserve love just because I exist?

• How am I judging myself? What’s the pay off for judging myself and/or others so harshly?

• In what ways do I feel powerless to do something about this circumstance? What are my pay offs for my thoughts and feelings of powerlessness?

Whenever we judge others harshly, that judgment is a reflection of how mercilessly we judge ourselves. Whenever we feel powerless, we are taking the role of a victim so that we can deny our power to be, do, and have what we truly want.  If you feel fearful, angry, jealous, or judgmental about someone else’s circumstances, you are projecting your own fears onto that situation, rather than dealing with your own personal mess.

You probably look in the mirror everyday to make adjustments to your appearance. Let us seek opportunities for love and forgiveness that are available when we use similar care as we examine the content of our lives. In taking the time to reflect upon our circumstances and reactions, we can recognize our choices to play victims and judges instead of seeking to become who we really are as empowered children of our Heavenly Parent. By examining our beliefs, assumptions, and feelings, we can more clearly perceive where we have blocked the flow of Love in our lives and suffered from the effects of our fear-based defenses.

Just as flowing water changes the landscape, so too will the flowing River of Love transform the landscape of your entire life if you allow it to do its work. Fear makes a desert of our lives. Love has the power to make us into lush and fertile places full of color, activity, and abundant life.

When we seek God’s Power of Love, we are no longer thirsty people chasing after mirages shimmering in the heat of our parched souls. We become people who do not chase after images in desperation. We no longer run away from that which we fear. As we experience the abundance of Love available within and without, we have more than enough to give. We have more than enough to live. We are also empowered to greet every situation, no matter how terrible, with hearts full of love and hope.

Death and violence come when love is denied. Life, peace, and healing come when we let Love in. In a world of passing clouds and shadows, may we all be places where Love is welcome. May we become oases for those who are living in fear.

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For those who are students of the Law of Attraction, you know that in order for you to receive what you desire, you must allow it to come to you. You know that forcing and resisting only perpetuate the continuance of what you do not want.

So how, exactly, do we allow?

To allow our desires to come to us, we must release our energetic defenses related to those desires. And so the simple answer is to use energetic clearing techniques (either those employed by others or those you do on yourself. As a coach interested in empowering my clients as much as possible, I recommend developing an extensive toolkit of self-help clearing techniques that you can apply as soon as energetic defenses start powering up.

I am not opposed to bringing in the help and support of energetic clearing professionals and accepting other help and support. It’s just that I would prefer people be able to clear stuff that comes up as soon as possible, rather than needing to make an appointment with someone. You will make greater progress much more quickly and you will become much more self-sufficient when it comes to managing your personal energy fields.

Having said all of this, what does allowing feel like (because this really is the goal of all of this! Think about all of the circumstances and experiences you easily and effortlessly allow into your life right now. Perhaps you watch a favorite television show or prepare a particular kind of meal. Maybe it involves allowing others to do things for you. It could be doing an activity that you love. Whatever feelings you feel about these kinds of things that you easily allow, you can have the exact same feelings about other things that are currently more challenging like energizing and supportive relationships, plenty of money, great health and well-being, a comfortable and functional home, invigorating travel and new experiences, peace and joy, a sense of passion and purpose, et cetera.

We do not experience all of our desires because our defenses block what we do want and attract what we don’t want. When allowing a million dollars feels as easy and effortless as watching our favorite television show, we’ll have the million dollars. Until then, we will try to get a million dollars, and it won’t be very much fun. God didn’t choose to make our lives difficult. We have done that all by ourselves.

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My plan is to make this the last post on the major themes that I picked up from the entire Lost series and particularly, the Lost finale.

One of the images that really spoke to me in the Lost finale was the moment when Hurley invited Benjamin Linus to join the group inside the church. Ben basically decided that he was not ready to enter into the fellowship of friends yet. What I saw in Ben Linus at that moment was a man who was not yet able to forgive himself. I get that. I really get it.

In my life, I have found forgiving myself to be one of the more challenging aspects of my journey. Just like anybody else, I have screwed up majorly so many times. Somehow I continue to be blessed in my ability to make gobs of new mistakes on what seems to be a daily basis.

The thing I have discovered for myself is that forgiveness is not something granted from a far-off deity who stands with arms folded, foot tapping, brow wrinkling, and mouth frowning. The Ultimate Power that grants forgiveness is like the air we breathe. It is constantly available to us. And just like with breathing, we (most of us for the most part) can easily and effortlessly accept this air into our lungs. We allow it in. To do differently would lead to a very quick death.

And yet, our unwillingness to allow this abundant power that helps us to forgive ourselves and others is very much a form of spiritual death. If we hold offenses against ourselves and others, we are cut off from the very Life of the Cosmos. We suffocate because we do not let go of our attachment to our suffering enough to allow the sweetness and fullness of Life Itself into our very souls for the transformation of our lives.

And yes, I continue to make mistakes (and some pretty big ones too) on a daily basis. And every time I do, I get to experience that power which helps me to forgive myself. Let’s no longer continue to sit outside the sacred space of healing. Let us receive the abundant forgiveness that is at hand. Let us allow ourselves to be forgiven, even as we allow ourselves to forgive those who have injured us.

In forgiveness is freedom for all. Allow it. Accept it. And give it freely for your sake and for the sake of everything that you hold dear.

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 Another theme that came through loud and clear in the Lost finale was letting go. This theme has such power and meaning for me. I am challenged by the scope of this theme in a 500-word blog post. I am certain that I will be writing quite a few books dedicated to this topic alone. It is already at the center of getting results for my coaching clients. Here’s a teaser of what is to come.

We are only held back in the fulfillment of every aspect of who we are and what we are here to do to the extent that we refuse to let go. We were created to trust completely We were created to be free. We were created to receive love without restriction. We were created to give love without holding anything back.

As you and I both know, there are few ( if any) people alive today who fully embody the intentions of our creation that I listed above. The only way to achieve the fullness of the intention of our creation is to let go of everything we cling to out of fear. Fear is the lie that we have chosen to believe. Fear is the natural result of disconnection from the Divine Source of Being.

To the person who lives in fear, Jacob’s choice to allow Ben to kill him seems like insanity. His choice to bring the one person (Desmond) to the island who could destroy it seems ridiculous. His choice to trust a screwed up spinal surgeon with serious daddy issues and a major control addiction—Mr. Fix It—to destroy the man in black and save the island (without giving any instructions at all!) is just plain nuts.

But Jacob, in his role as protector of the island, learned something over the years of his stewardship. He learned to let go of his fears and doubts—everything that held him back from perceiving reality as it truly was. He learned to trust himself. He learned to trust others. He had learned to trust God fully and completely.

The Oceanic 815 survivors we see at the very end of the show get to move on in their after-lives only when each of them has let go of the past, let go of living in fear and illusion. Only then can they experience the greater realities of existence that await them.

I know most people say they want to be free. The thing is that these very same people are unwilling to let go of their fear-based defenses. We can’t have it both ways. Ultimately each and every one of us will be put into situations where the choice will be very clear—continue to exist in a state of spiritual death from living in fear or choosing the abundantly magnificent life that flows from letting go of fear and accepting unconditional love. As someone in the process of choosing the latter option, I’ve gotta tell you, there is no comparison. Death sucks. Life rocks. Please, please, please come rock and roll with me!!!

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