Everybody has skeletons in their closets. We tend to think that there are some people with skeletons in their closets and other people who don’t have any.

Everyone has them. Actually, most of our life closets are so full of skeletons that if we open the door, we will be buried in an avalanche of bones. If you are consciously aware of many of your skeletons, you’re ahead of the game! Congratulations! If you’re not aware of your skeletons, here are a few hints on how to become more conscious of our skeletons this Halloween season.

If there are any circumstances in our lives that we don’t feel good about, every single one counts as a skeleton. If it is something that haunts us from the past, that’s a skeleton. If something is happening right now that has us troubled, that’s an indicator that there are skeletons in our closets that we have been afraid to face. If we fear anything in the future that we do not want, these are all unconscious projections of skeletons that are still stinking up our inner life closets.

Here are a few thoughts that might inspire us to clear up some of our skeletons. (It’s not pretty, but it’s the truth from my perspective!)

We only have skeletons in our closets because we took a corpse of a past experience that we interpreted from a fear-based point of view. To locked the dead body of our fears in a small dark place “out of sight.” And yet, it is not out of mind. It is there, putting this stench in our inner houses. We now have storage spaces that are not available for anything (except maybe storing more corpses). Plus we will either never let other people in our homes (hearts and lives). And if we do we will have to burn all kinds of incense and lock the closet door to keep our guests from discovering the truth. If we do allow people into the home of our lives, we will live in fear that people will discover our skeletons. We won’t be able to enjoy our guests. We will be on our guard, wondering who is going to discover our deep, dark secrets.

When we have an opportunity to move into a gorgeous mansion that has been gifted to us, we turn down the opportunity to live the life of our dreams. Why? We don’t want to disturb those skeletons in our closets. If we leave our old house behind, someone may discover what we don’t want them to know about our past. (By the way each and every moment is pregnant with these kinds of opportunities!)

And so this is how most of us live our lives. Afraid to accept the gift, the mansion, the inheritance, the money, the job, the relationship, et cetera, et cetera. And we wonder why things don’t get much better for us over time. It’s because we would rather clinging to moldy old bones out of fear. We are fully capable of letting go of the corpses to embrace more and more love and life.

And remember, we all have skeletons. No one in this world can stand in judgment of us without condemning themselves. This goes for us as well as for others. So if someone actually does condemn you for your skeletons, know that they will only do so because they are afraid of people discovering their own bone collections.

And in case anyone is wondering, The Divine Source has no interest in judging or condemning us for our skeletons. The Source’s main desire is that we accept enough Love to let our skeletons go so that we can be free to live and love without limit.

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On this Memorial Day, I would like to put forward a few thoughts based on my personal experiences with war veterans and other people suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I do not claim to know or understand what you have endured. What I do claim to know is that there are ways to release those things that continue to bind you to the past.

I have written before about defense systems and force fields. People who have experienced the horrors of war first hand have some of the most powerful and debilitating defenses human beings can create. Likewise this is often true for those who have experienced some other form of trauma where they experienced their very existence was at stake in a very intense way. It’s understandable that these circumstances would generate very powerful defenses.

And yet, once the threat has passed, most of the defenses created in these trying circumstances continue to operate and pull some energy from the power core of each of person who has experienced them. The creation and maintenance of these defenses reduces personal energy and the ability to perceive what is really going on in various circumstances. These defenses also cause people to live way too cautiously for their own good and for the good of all.

In a blog post, I’m not going to be able to tell you how to set yourself free from these traumas that cause so much suffering. This post is to give you hope as someone who has seen people set free from their inner demons.

Here are a few things I would like to share as you consider the possibilities for releasing that which holds you back from living a life of complete and total freedom and trust.

1. It takes as long as it takes.
2. Release, when it happens, happens in an instant.
3. There are layers and aspects to our defenses. Clear one. Allow the next to surface. Clear that one. Repeat! Repeat!! Repeat!
4. You are not alone in your suffering. There are thousands of people (if not millions) currently carrying burdens very similar to yours.
5. You need not fear forgetting anything. You will remember what happened without feeling the negative feelings associated with those memories. You will also be able to see more of the good that existed in those circumstances once the defenses are gone. What a gift!
6. There is hope. Eventually everything impermanent must give way to that which is permanent. When we allow this to happen, everything changes forever.

You don’t have to believe me. You don’t have to trust me. You don’t have to do anything. I’m here to give you hope. When you are ready, the responses  to your questions will come to set you free from that which ties you to the past. You deserve freedom. For those of you who suffer because of your decision to serve the cause of freedom, isn’t it time you allowed yourself to be set free as well? For those of you who suffer because of the exercise of human free will, isn’t it time for you to experience real freedom as well?

May we all be set free from the shackles of the past. And in our freedom, may we serve other suffering souls generously from hearts overflowing with compassion. Together we can help each other heal. Together we can change everything for the better.

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I recently had an interesting conversation with a gentleman about fear. This man shared with me some of his thoughts on fear. He had been taught that being fearless (literally unafraid) would get him killed. He happens to work in law enforcement and has received a lot of training from many people over the years on how to stay alive and not get dead.

Every single person had taught him that being unafraid would get him killed very quickly. He took this advice to heart and decided to be afraid in going about his law enforcement work.

He shared with me a story of recently transferring a prisoner who had received a life sentence. The man was in the back of his car, and asked for one last thing before being taken to prison, Kentucky Fried Chicken. The officer, who knew that doing this could cost him his job and even get him killed, considered the request. He granted the man with a life sentence his wish. He took him to KFC and bought him a two piece meal, standing ready for when this man’s friends came into the store to kill him. He had the man hurry up and finish the chicken and get back into the car for the rest of the trip to prison.

This cop was terrified during this whole story. He was afraid of being shot. He was afraid of losing his job should what he did become known. He had been taught that his terror was what was going to keep him alive.

What if none of this was necessary? What if he could have been fearless in this circumstance? What could have been different?

Here’s what I know for sure.

If this man was fearless, he could have known what this man’s true intentions were: to set a trap to make a break for freedom, or to have food that reminded him of the joy and freedom of being a kid again).

If this man was fearless, he could have been at peace at KFC and really soaked in the wonderful compassion of what he offered this man out of the generosity of his real and true heart. He could have taken his time, sensed very clearly whether there were any threats, and allowed this man to heat his chicken and really savor the moment.

People think that their fears keep them safe. Wrong! Our fears keep us in fear and attract the very circumstances that cause us to feel fear and react out of that fear.

Robert Frost wrote, “There’s nothing I’m afraid of like scared people.” I know why he said it. It’s time for each and every one of us to release every fear we carry around to keep ourselves safe, even the fear of scared people!

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